Sunday, 20 September 2015

RIP Tanya

 
Thank you for your words of support yesterday.  Wendy and I had gone to visit our good friend Tanya in hospital - you may recall that she was diagnosed with stage 4 Cancer earlier in the year and we had declared then that we were her A team and she could lean on us - we even joked that my retirement couldn't have come at a better time as I would help her when she needed it.  Wendy had been to see her recently and had been shocked to see how poorly she looked but when we arrived at the hospital we had no idea that she would pass away minutes before our visit.

Having spoken to her partner Alan, it is clear that Tanya was in a lot of pain and became very distressed - he was having lunch with us when she passed away and the nurses were convinced that she had waited until he left to spare him - just like Tanya!  We also feel strongly that we were meant to be there yesterday to support Alan - we had promised to be there until the end after all!

Tanya was a bright, bubbly person with strong opinions.  Cancer is a dreadful disease which has taken her far too soon.  However she truly looked at peace and, I am sure, is now in a much better place.

I wasn't ready to write this yesterday - if only for the fact that her adult children were still driving up from Kent and did not know - whilst, I am sure, they do not read this blog I did not want to take that chance.


8 comments:

  1. Thanks for sharing such a personal journey. We never know where our blog or life journeys will take us, but having good friends around us for that journey makes the suffering we sometimes go through, more bearable.
    I am sure Tanya would be thankful to know you were there for Alan.
    As you say, cancer is dreadful and takes too many of our loved ones too early.
    Lets all wake up tomorrow thankful that we have woken..and do our best to make a difference in the little part of the world that we live in.
    ((hugs)) xx

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  2. So sorry you have lost a special friend we are thinking and praying for comfort for you and the family which only the Lord can bring.

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  3. So sorry to hear your very sad news... will be thinking of you! Christine x

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  4. Sorry to hear your sad news. Lovely that you and Wendy were both there for her. Thinking of you.

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  5. Sorry to hear your sad news. Lovely that you and Wendy were both there for her. Thinking of you.

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  7. Sorry to hear your sad news. Lovely that you and Wendy were both there for her. Thinking of you.

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  8. I was very sad to hear the news of the passing of Tanya,thinking of you Lynda xx

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